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when we ask a question, we already have an answer in mind, partly
formed, at least. And so, if the answer from outside does not concur
with our preconceptions, we are reluctant to accept it; the mind is
very good at rationalization, at finding reasons to dismiss something
as ‘incorrect’, ‘unsuitable’, or as ‘not feeling right’.
This is not to say, of course, that answers from others are always
better than our own; to suppose that would mean being prejudiced in
the other direction, would it not?
Many of us ask questions
just for the sake of it, without real interest or desire to learn, and
pay no attention to the answers. Needless to say, this is a waste of
If we would spend more time
quietly thinking things over instead of just scratching the surface,
more time in trying to formulate and express our questions clearly
instead of just blurting them out, we would learn much more. The
answers are not always outside of ourselves.